My Views on Love

Hi guys! So I just got back from watching The Fault in Our Stars and while I found it enjoyable, it did not exactly move me and I shed no tear. This actually left me wonder why because usually I'm the kind of person who can easily cry over anything. Hell I even cried when the Singapore airport officials  took my peanut butter because they considered it as liquid. I cried when I accidentally erased some pictures on my camera. But why not on this? Why not on a movie where half of the people on the theatres were crying? Am I loosing my sense of compassion?

Well I guess the answer is because I do not really believe in love at first sight, and this movie pretty much portrays that as its major theme. While there are other major plots like battling with cancer and what not, the romance still dominates the movie. Don't get me wrong, I am totally cool with romance but I would not necessarily ship two underage teenagers who are extremely attracted to each other from the first day who later hanging out in the foreign streets of Amsterdam without any supervision while also being extremely sick......

Okay. Enough with my comments about the movie before someone starts throwing things at me. =)

This movie just got me thinking about my views on love and I'd like to share some of them. And what I mean by love is husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend kind of love. Not like the parents and kids kind of love, because I could make a whole new essay about that.
Remember tho, I'm not a love expertise. Not at all. I barely even have any experience on this field sooooo if my opinion is different with yours, then take a chill pill!

Back to the love at first sight thing. I'm not being negativistic (or maybe I am) but to me, love is something that is much deeper than that. It is possible for you to feel some sort of connections with certain people when you meet them, but can we label it as love? Now people have been telling me that love is beyond physical attraction. But what makes you attracted to someone at the first place? I'm sure 99% of the time it's physical appearance right? I have not yet found a person who is attracted to someone new because "he/she seems so nice", because it is impossible except maybe you're a psychic. And while physical attraction is completely normal (God knows how many times I have experienced this), I refuse to believe that love has taken over in this stage. It's this little thing called lust. And lust does lead to love sometimes, but the odds are very little because A. Most of the time it is one sided and B. Once you get to know the person better, he/she may not be the kind of person that you expected.

So what do I believe? I believe that true love started with friendship. I believe that by being friends, two people will get to know each other without being pretentious. Maybe friendship will not be as binding  as boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, and it's gonna suck when the person that you care about has another love interest but hey, if it's true love then it will not go anywhere. Love cannot be rushed. And I was not saying that you cannot have a relationship, but when you do, make sure that you know what kind of person that you date. I'm just kind of sick and tired of people that are having relationships just to follow the trend. Call me old fashioned but I can never accept love as a trend.

I also found the term friendzone ridiculous because you will never know what will happen in your future. Maybe "friendzoning" someone will only prevent you in finding the love of your life. I don't know about you but I think friendship-based relationships would last longer. Who does not want to grow old with someone that cares about you the most? After all, the only possible way to stay faithful to your partner once the lust is gone is because you care about him/her, right?

That's why I adore Tony and Ziva, or Ron and Hermione, or Pete and Myka kind of romance. Tony and Ziva have known each other for 7 freakin' years before they took their relationship to another level. They've gone through pretty much everything together as co-workers and best friends; happiness, pain and show each other's good and bad side. Since Tony met Ziva, he had two serious girlfriends; Jeanne (even though it's an undercover op, but Tony did like Jeanne) and EJ. While Ziva dated Rivkin, Ray and had a brief romance with Adam. But in the end, they knew that they had each other's back. Even though Ziva ended up leaving, her departure affected Tony in a way that no other did. Why? Because Ziva is not only Tony's love interest. She's not only another chick that Tony wanted to sleep with. She's his best friend. THAT to me, is a true love.

I know they are fictional characters but so are Hazel Grace and Augustus Waters, right?

"One day you'll realize you lost a diamond while too busy collecting stones."